How to handle a man in a relationship
By: Sere Neema
Posted on Thursday, June 27, 2019
Do not sit and wait for your relationship to fall apart. Men and women are wired differently and both parties work best when there is an understanding. Communicate better, solve issues better, know his needs.
Have effective conversations with men
“Men do not like to be confronted, we are imperfect, in fact, we are seriously imperfect”
Relationship coach, David Kuria on FULL CIRCLE with Joyce Omondi says, women need to communicate better when in need of a response. The moment a man feels attacked, he becomes defensive and irresponsive.
Similarly, when a man is hurt, anything a woman says is meaningless. Go back to the drawing board, know the problem and approach with kindness.
If you need him to understand your needs, express yourself clearly. Unlike women, who have a sixth sense and can process a man’s needs, men need full disclosure. With that, they know what to do, when and how.
When men express emotions
Men have been raised to not be weak. Small challenges affect them and they barely speak of it. However, when they fall ill per say, they seek attention and want to be pampered. Relationship coach David says this is their time to get even, to get vulnerable.
Women show love through expressions and emotions whereas men, in the midst of colleagues and friends, will praise their women and ensure their presence is felt. They show love through provision and protection as well.
Why men cheat, how to stop them
When women cheat, it is mostly because they want to revenge but men cheat because to them, it is a basic want and will at times do it without emotion.
“If a man tries to hide his cheating, he values you but if he is open he doesn’t care about you,” David Kuria explains but does this justify a man’s traitorous actions?
He says men know how to respect standards… a woman needs to take a stand. Confront the man, tell him he does not value you and you are aware. Either he stays with the other person, or stays with you.
