Kate Actress' tips on how to know you've found the one.
By: Joan Wangari
Posted on Wednesday, September 30, 2020
Most people desire to have a life time partner. Someone to love. Someone to love them. A person to spend the rest of their lives with. In this day and age, it has become difficult to find that person. Usually known as ‘the one’, It is even more difficult to realize whether you’ve found them. People are wired to spot the red flags but sometimes, we should look for the good signs. It is important for one to note that a relationship is not all about flaws and faults. A good partner’s character also includes positive traits or ‘green flags’ if you will. Whenever one puts their focus on identifying only the red flags, that is what is brought out in their partner. Is there really a way to know that you’ve found the one? Benjamin Zulu explains how one can.
While speaking on gospel show Full Circle With Joyce, the relationships counsellor said the first green flag is the ability to hold deep conversations. Rich conversations that make time fly. If you can make rich conversations out of any topic, then it’s a good sign. When you talk to someone and you do not feel judged because of your opinions, that person could be the one. For Catherine Kariuki, popularly known as the fashionable stepmom, rich conversations sealed the deal for her. The 18 years’ difference in age did not stop her and her husband, Mike, to have deep conversations. She once disclosed that whenever she was with Mike, time just flew. Their conversations connected them and made them become good friends.
The second most important thing one needs to look out for is how their lives have changed after meeting this new person. A person that allows you to have your own life can be the one. That person does not push you to change your healthy friends. They understand that you are not in their life to complete them but rather to compliment them. They don’t want you to make them your life but rather build your life around them.
One should not have unrealistic expectations. One should always remember that life is not a fairy tale. Expectations should not be drawn from movies. If the person is realistic and has manageable expectations, then that’s a good sign. Independence is another green light. If the person is not overly dependent on their family, it’s a green flag. They need to have their act together no matter how their environment is. The person should be able to make their own decisions and choices.
Both parties need to challenge one another. They need to make each other better. They need to inspire each other to pursue their dreams. They should be willing to support each other and offer a shoulder to lean on for one another. They should bring out each other’s unexplored potential. Two people in love give each other a chance to shine and conquer the world.
Finally, generosity is another big green flag. One cannot love another without giving. Humans are wired to give things to the people they care about. Catherine Kamau, once gave her now husband Phillip Karanja a huge sum of money for a project. Kate the actress supported the dreams of her husband and those of his friends. This act of kindness has made her husband a bigwig in the film industry.
Always be a reflection of what you want. If you want love, give out love. May love find you. Have a great week.
