The Do's and Don'ts of maintaining a healthy relationship.
By: Joan Wangari
Posted on Sunday, September 6, 2020
Ever wondered what you should or should not do in a relationship? Lots of regulations are greatly influenced by the personalities of the parties involved. Every relationship has its own set of rules but there are some standard canons that every relationship should subscribe to. Whenever in a relationship it is important to treat your partner the same way you’d want to be treated. Do not set standards that you cannot meet yourself. What you want should be a reflection of who you are. You should set rules based on respect and love in order for your relationship to be healthy.
Joyce Omondi, hosted psychologist and relationship expert Benjamin Zulu on Full Circle who demystified the do’s and don’ts in order to maintain a healthy relationship. The first thing Benjamin said was for one to encourage their partner to continue keeping the friends they had including friends of the opposite gender. This of course should be encouraged as long as there are healthy boundaries and respect. If your partner is insecure about those healthy friendships, that should signal you that something is wrong. A man or woman who doesn’t feel intimidated by the healthy friends you keep is a man or woman worthy of keeping.
According to Benjamin, it is important for people especially men to understand the season they are in. If at the moment you cannot afford something, do not feel uncomfortable when your partner caters for the bill. Be comfortable with what you have and be honest with your partner. The Kiuna’s are a perfect example of this golden rule. Bishop Allan, was honest with his then girlfriend reverend Kathy about his back ground. His honesty enabled his wife to shield him from her family who would have discouraged her from getting married to him if they knew where he came from.
Rev Kathy, once revealed that her father exchanged the emaciated goats Bishop Allan had brought for her dowry negotiations with fat ones because her father understood where the bishop was coming from.
Benjamin and Joyce both agreed that friendship is a very integral part of a healthy relationship. This helps to understand the mood of your partner. Being friends helps sort out issues in your relationship. It also helps you have fun with each other. You will be able to make jokes and have a good laugh together. When the two of you are friends, you will trust and respect each other and your relationship will never get boring. Friendship helps you tap into the energy of your partner. Your relationship will be what today’s society deems goals.
Another golden tip is to never air your dirty laundry in public. This is very bad as it destroys the image of your partner. It is important to be very objective when doing this. If you air your dirty laundry in order to teach other people that is good. Make sure your partner is comfortable with it first and that she would never get offended. Be careful how you say it and where you say it. Apply wisdom whenever you speak about your partner.
A healthy relationship begins with knowing oneself and knowing what you want. Being objective in a relationship helps cultivate healthy habits for your relationship.
