Do come we stay marriages last?
By: Sere Neema
Posted on Thursday, June 6, 2019
What a ‘come-we-stay’ type of marriage refers to…
It is a situation where a man and a woman get together in a union that would formerly be deemed legally, culturally and religiously unacceptable.
This relationship is most common with campus lovers who rush into moving in together before marriage, payment of dowry and getting to know each other well.
Host Jackie Matubia in this session of chatspot, actually confesses to having being in a 3-year come we stay relationship…. interesting!
What really happens in this type of relationship?
Share the costs
As a couple, come we stay is extremely cost friendly especially when it comes to splitting the bills. Both parties have to chip in, one pays the electricity and water bills and the other pays the internet and house groceries’ bills… that is how it works. What if one partner is jobless?
No mama nguo anymore
In most cases the campus girls get into the relationships jobless. With time they realize they have to start getting their hands dirty, they have to cook, wash clothes, clean the house, name it. Then when the going gets tough, the tough gets going, they no longer have a say in the relationships.
On the good side again, you could…
Build an empire
Yes! It is very possible. Despite all these issues that come with the relationship, one can get lucky enough to find a partner that wants to build a life with them. A partner who wishes to start a family, a good business and if all goes well, tie the knot.
The chatspot ladies, Jackie Matubia, Kush Tracey, Nonny Gathoni and Nzula Makosi have confirmed that many Kenyan women, due to this kind of relationship, find themselves in more difficult situations than when they got in.
Their advice: ‘For young girls in college, wait! You have so much time….so much time’
