The four type of women friends every woman needs.
Posted on Thursday, September 3, 2020
Author: Joan Wangari
Women are very relational and want to be associated with people
Women are very relational human beings and want to be associated with people. They make friendships very easily but often have a hard time maintaining healthy relationships. Their friendships most often than not happen to be situationships, based on convenience.
People say that gossip and pain bring women together but is this true? Lasses make friendships over the little things. A simple hair or make-up discussion can turn two women into the best of friends. However, this nature may lead them to making very many wrong friends. Their hearts end up being broken because they trust and love easily.
Speaking on Full Circle with Joyce on Switch TV Kenya, Cynthia Wambui Otieno, a relationships expert, shared the four friends that every woman needs. She noted that it is important to evaluate the type of friends you have in whatever season you are in. Evaluating your friends helps you become intentional when making friends. Cynthia described the four essential friends using the acronym the 4C’s.
The Confidant.
This is the friend that is reliable, dedicated and strives to bring out the best in you. She does not want to compete with you. She prays for you, understands your dreams and visions and is willing to walk with you as you pursue your dreams. She does not only listen but also sees the unspoken. She is a visionary who captures your dreams and takes them as her own.
It is hard to find this type of a friend because there Is a lot of self-awareness between the two of you and this might make you feel like you are in a competition, which is not the case.
The Cheerleader.
She is a listener and is very empathetic. She listens without interruptions or revamps. She listens to understand and ask questions. This woman celebrates your milestones no matter how little. She has the gift of exaltation, understands your value and pushes you to your next level and season. This is a woman who hears your dreams and know when you need to actualize them. She gets you what you need to win and understands that when you win, she wins. She builds you up because she wants you to excel.
It takes a lot of maturity and self-awareness to be this type of friend.
Both the cheerleader and the confidant are seasonal friends. They are there for a reason and for a season. Don't try to keep them for a long time.
What you attract,reflects who you are
The Coach.
She is a blend of the cheerleader and the confidant. The coach asks the right and thought provoking questions. She bridges the gap between your potential and your vision. She takes you to the next level. This woman believes in you and where you need to be. She is the woman that challenges you and opens your eyes. She believes in what you are about to do.
The Critic.
If you want to get to your place of elevation, get yourself an intentional critic. She interrogates your thought process. She is in your life because she understand the big picture. This woman know your worth and will tell you whenever you are underperforming. She moves you from the place of pain to a place of purpose. She takes you from mediocrity to excellent. This is the type of woman who interrogates your actions.
The critic is truthful and doesn't sugarcoat things.
So, how do you identify each of these friends? Start by being one of them. What we attract reflects who we are. Also become that friend you need for yourself. Seek purpose in the relationships you form. Seeking purpose ensures that you have genuine friends. The most important thing is making peace with the fact that not everyone is your friend and that you live, you learn and you eventually grow. All the best as you make friends.
The celebrity best friends we are looking at are Foi Wambui and Maxine Wabosha. We don't know which category they fall under but they are goals!!
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