Actions speak louder in Love & Trust Relationships
By: Staphey Wairimu
Posted on Wednesday, July 31, 2019
Letting go of toxic people is a big step in loving yourself.
To be human is to be contemporaneous. Co-existing is a big part of living and relationships are necessary for survival. In fact, psychologists argue managing relationships with others is almost like a full time job. But what happens when this full time job is draining you mentally, emotionally, financially and physically?
On this week’s episode of extremely popular Talk Show “Real Talk with Tamima” (Airs every Monday and Tuesday from 830PM on Switch TV), the topic of discussion was toxic friendships/relationships and their effect on the lives of those involved.
One of the guests was Jesse Mwangi, 36. Jesse married the love of his life through a traditional wedding. The couple is blessed with a baby boy. 2 months into the union, his Employer was sued for fraud. The litigation went on to affect him and some of his colleagues resulting in a 16-month jail term. Despite being in the “Honeymoon” Phase of his marriage, everything suddenly changed, the romance in the relationship went downhill. In fact, the whole time he was behind bars, his wife visited him only twice. “Every time I called her, she was always in noisy places, or a bit too uncomfortable talking to me, she was always unsympathetic. My worst fears were confirmed when my mom turned up alone on my release date.” Jesse was to later find out that his wife had moved on his close friend and the two were living together as Husband and Wife. He explains how it was a dark moment for him and he almost committed a wrong act, were it not for his strong rational mother.
Dayan Masinde, a psychologist says that “this is not only a good friend gone bad but also a good wife gone rogue. A lot of people don’t look out for their friend’s interests rather their own vested interests.” Ayab, a member of the audience during the show shared up on her awful experience. ‘’My boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend but the worst part was, she was my shoulder to lean on and every time she would tell me to leave the guy’’
Unresolved pain.
A fashion designer in the audience spoke about his experience on trust. He went to on say how he ran a successful business and would dress his “friends” for shows and events on credit. Occasionally he would lend them money, accessories, shoes and clothes. One day his premises were demolished by the Government as part of a road expansion project; to his surprise, all his “friends” disappeared overnight. Some of them went to the extend of blocking him on their phones on learning about his misfortune. ‘’From that day, I can barely trust anyone!’’
Jane Rose, a lawyer advised, ‘’you need to know and understand people’s backgrounds before investing in any friendships/relationships with them.’’
Catch “Real Talk with Tamima” every Monday and Tuesday at 08.30 pm, where youths open up and share on different experiences. In case you missed it, you watch repeats of all the shows on the Switch TV website.
